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5 Lessons to Learn Before You Turn 20

“If someone does not want me it is not the end of the world. But if I do not want me, the world is nothing but endings.” -Nayyirah Waheed

I’ve learnt some really important lessons in my 20’s. While I always dreaded hitting 21, I feel so much comfort knowing the things I do now. It feels as if I am finally content and happy with aging now that I know about all of the beautiful lesson’s life can teach us.

I feel more at peace with myself than I have in years which is something I certainly didn’t expect at 21. Here are five of the most important lessons I have learnt in my 20th year that I feel as if everyone should learn.

1. Literally No One Really Has Their Life Together

First of all, take the pressure off yourself. Literally no one has their life together, ever. They are just really good at pretending they do.

People often comment that I have my life together, and that isn’t true at all. It isn’t true for me, you, your sibling, your parent, or your grandparent! Nobody ever truly has their life together, so don’t be hard on yourself.

No matter how much effort is put in, nobody ever truly has their life together.

2. Don’t be Afraid to Ask for Help

Asking for help is essential. After all, as humans, we all need each other. There are billions of other people experiencing life at the same time as you for a reason.

They are only here to help their fellow humans.

3. Helping Others Is Essential

Asking for help is important, but helping others is just as important. If others help you, you need to ensure that you help them too. It is as simple as that.

4. Stop Trying to Be Who Everyone Expects You to Be

You know yourself better than anyone does. Therefore, you need to ensure that you set your own expectations for yourself and stick to them. Stop letting others dictate who you are and who you’re going to become.

In life, people will talk down to you, tell you that you’re no good, and have their own opinions on who you are as a person. Often, this is more so their view of themselves than their view of you.

5. You Have to Get Out of Bed Every Single Day, Even If It Is the Only Thing You Do